I received the below letter from one of my friends and loyal readers of my blog. I did not have the time to read it until now...
"I'm having a breakdown moment. It's the transitioning sista's worst
nightmare. I took out my weave and got curly hair happy when I saw all the
newfound curlz. So I picked up the scissors and got to work. I wanted to cut all
the perm out of my hair...and did cut most of it. Then, it hit me, I had
absolutely no idea what to do with my newfound type 4 curlz. I watched you tube
videos but there isn't anything for short hair. I have about 3-4 inches of
nappyness. My joy quickly dissipated to panic stricken mess. I washed and did
the organix/evoo thing but my hair was dry and had no immediately obvious style.
I was so intensely frustrated and was ready to lye that thing up. If weren't for
my husband, who insists that I continue the process, I would have. We had a full
out argument about why I needed to continue the process for reasons that had
nothing to do with hair.
I'm writing an open letter to the Natural honey's... how do ya'll do
it? It feels so complicated. I am not my hair, but my hair is my crown and no
matter how cute my dress is, if my hair isn't styled nicely, I look a HOT mess!
I clearly, without the shadow of a doubt, have type 4c hair. Is there a 4d?
Whatever the tightest coils are...I have it. And, I have a big head. That just
makes for a lot of really thick hair. My head was one matted mess this weekend.
I pressed it out, on Friday night. But what's the point of being
natural, if I'm going to straighten my hair at every opportunity. If I'm only
going to be curly occasionally, I can do that with a texturizer or a perm. I am
a wife, mother, student, photographer, daughter, sister, friend, professional
woman...I don't want to be slave to my hair, natural or not. I'm still natural,
for now but I need some suggestions. HELP!" -Pru
Awe! Where you are is a very common place for most natural beauties. I went through it also. Its feels like a breaking point but what it is...is a test of your strength and commitment. I actually cried the first night that I BC because my realization of fabulous natural curls went out the window when I saw that little natural fro. It was a hot mess...trust me.
The point that I am trying to make is that first you must embrace your texture. Throw out any preconceived thoughts of what your texture should/could look like. Don't concern yourself with hair types (I hate those). Your hair is simply....your hair. Secondly, you must find creative ways to play with your texture. For short hair, "flat" braid outs or twist outs works best. Experiment with good moisturizing products, like Kinky-Curly, Miss Jessie's Buttercreme, or Cantu. Most traditional relaxed hair products do not work on natural hair. Also, continue to condition-you will see the results after you do it a couple of times. More than anything, invest in a good dose of patience. It takes time, trial, and error to grow natural beautiful hair. Trust me, (and I've seen your hair) when it grows out-you will be the envy of the crowd because your hair is healthy and beautiful-just as you are.