Never touch a black woman's hair!
This statement that has been ringing in my ears since hearing Neicy Nash, a contestant on Dancing With The Stars, caution her dance partner on last night's show. This wasn't the first time I've heard this statement; I grew up hearing black women declare this statement all the time. Plus, it was repeated over and over on Chris Rock's Good Hair movie. But for some reason, last night was it particularly unnerving.
Some say it's a personal space issue comparable to touching a pregnant woman's belly. While others say it's a matter of privacy. Certainly, no one wants someone touching their hair and run across a track of weave. Whatever the reason, it's a personal choice and not a "black women" thing.
The problem that I have with the statement "Never touch a black woman's hair" is the fact that it's a generalization of all black women. This is certainly not my feelings or many women like me. Personally, I want people to touch my natural hair and see that it is soft, bouncy, and not filled with products or weave. And if you feel the same way I do, the next time you hear someone make such a generalized statement, please politely let them know that that statement is not representative of all black women.